I made a comment on an Instagram post a few days back (find me and follow me there if you feel inspired!) and it was well-received and I even got a very nice comment from another user which has inspired me to write this latest blog post. I mentioned in my last post here that I’ve been working more intentionally with stones and crystals in my spiritual practice and now as part of my magick. [A little side-note here: I am discovering that one can use the term magick to refer to many different ways that we express in our daily experience and that it really comes down to our orientation to how we are living our daily lives. Is there intention, purpose, and presence in what one is doing? If so, one could argue that one is performing magick.] So I realize that I’ve been performing healing magick on myself with these stones and crystals over the past few months and it all came about rather organically.
I do a writing practice every morning which came about after going through The Artist’s Way program (created by Julie Cameron) about 18 months ago during one of my annual pilgrimages to India. Truth be told, I didn’t actually finish the program (I think I made it to about week 8 – oops!), but the effects of it have been profound and life-changing none the less. [Perhaps one day I will go back and finish that! I hear the end is awesome!] Though I have tweaked it a bit to make it my own, I continue to do my ‘morning pages,’ and part of those pages consist of writing out a full page of affirmations for myself every morning. It was such a powerful experience during the program that I just continued it on a daily basis. Talk about magick! Seriously transformative!
And though that itself would make an excellent blog post, I will save that for a later date and get back to the topic at hand – gemstones and crystals! As I started to learn more about these little beings and their energies, I started holding them with me during my morning writing with the intention of aiding my process of opening up, being in my heart, and connecting with Source. As I learned more about different crystals, I started using them even more intentionally and started working with different ones to facilitate different experiences. At one point I started to learn that, in addition to support with spiritual growth and esoteric happenings, the gemstones are also great for working with physical ailments. So to test this out, I started to more intentionally incorporate crystals that might help heal the urinary tract infections that I kept experiencing. A quick search of the internet led me to discover that Carnelian, Amber, and Aquamarine might all be beneficial for bladder and urinary tract issues. Off to the local magick shop I went and found me just the gemstones I needed.
[So grateful to live in Portland, Oregon and have access to so many lovely shops! I will take this opportunity to give a huge shout out to one my favorite stores – Psychic Sister. I LOVE this place for the way it feels, for the aesthetics of the shop, and for the amazing women working there. I always feel so held and supported there! If you are not in the same boat with shop options near you, there are many wonderful online sources to find what you need.]
At one point, around the same time (the gemstones started speaking to me very loudly for a while there until they were sure they had my attention and I had amassed a fine little collection – I call them my super-powers!), I discovered Hematite, which is an extremely powerful stone known for its balancing, harmonizing, and grounding qualities. It helps to balance and align the chakras and supports connecting our energetic experience with our physical world. It also supports harmonizing and balancing of yin and yang energies, as it contains both within itself – male and female polarities. Part of my journey has been recognizing a tendency for many of us to swing too far in one direction and I have certainly experienced that in myself. I have very consciously been working to recognize, strengthen, and harmonize the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine energies in myself, hence my working with this stone. If you are familiar with Hematite, you might be aware that it can act like a magnet when placed with another piece of Hematite. It was natural for me to intuit that when used on the body, that magnetic energy is helping to displace and balance energy, supporting movement where there is stagnation and helping to clear blockages. It seemed like the perfect thing to use in conjunction with the UTI gemstones.
With all of my chosen crystals in hand, I sat down to do my morning writing practice. I placed one piece of Hematite on either side of my pelvis, sort of resting in the crook near my hip joints, and then I placed the Carnelian, Amber, and Aquamarine on my lower abdomen over where my bladder, urinary tract, uterus, and sexual organs reside. I communed with the stones, setting my intention and asking for their help and support in clearing the issues I was having with my bladder and urinary tract. I feel this is an extremely important part of working with these beings – asking for their support, setting intention, and offering so much gratitude for their supporting us on our journey. So that is what I did. It didn’t take long sitting there before I started feeling movement in my pelvis – energy movement, gurgling, different types of sensations. Very exciting! The Hematite felt like it was pulling the energies of the other stones through my pelvis (that is the vision that came to mind anyway) and I could tell that powerful things were happening. Though I didn’t know for sure, I trusted that it was all positive movement and would have beneficial outcomes.
I continued this the next day during my writing practice with the same type of sensations and energy movement. I continued to set intentions and thank the gemstones for their support. I think it was even as soon as the second treatment that I started having some very strange and cathartic dreams. Very strange sexually-themed dreams and not entirely pleasant, truth be told. I understood very quickly though that they were purging, cleansing, and clearing dreams and that they were linked to the treatments I had been doing with the gemstones. I started researching them more and discovered how beneficial they are for healing issues surrounding sexual trauma and abuse and for clearing negative sexual energies – healing the second chakra (Svadhisthana), removing blockages, clearing stagnation. And seriously wow. That is exactly what they were doing for me – without my even setting off on this part of the journey intentionally.
The experiences I was having led me to want to work more intentionally with this situation so I started researching more gemstones that support sexual healing. Throughout the course of my learning about stones, I had acquired a few books to support me in the process, but they all felt fairly vague to me and didn’t go into the detail that I wanted and oftentimes they focused more on physical healing properties rather than the spiritual properties, which is what I was mostly interested in. On one of my visits to Psychic Sister, I came across the Holy Grail of gemstone books and it has changed my life. Not kidding. The Book of Stones: Who They Are and What They Teach by Robert Simmons and Naisha Ahsian is just an absolute wealth of information on nearly 400 stones. The history of their usage, where they are found, their physical healing properties, their metaphysical properties, and which chakra they support – in excellent detail. I love this book!!! I don’t imagine I will ever look at another stone book again. Okay, well maybe. But seriously, if you are interested in working with these beings, do yourself a favor and buy this book. It will bust it all wide open for you. The glossary breaks it all down into both physical and metaphysical properties in such an easy to search manner. Looking for a stone to aid in working with humility? It’s listed there. A stone to support finding a hidden talent? It’s in there. A stone to support lucid dreaming? Yep, that is listed too! And then there are all the physical aspects listed out as well – working with heart, liver, warts, infertility, you name it. My point being that it is all super organized and detailed in a way that I’ve not experienced with any other book – you don’t have to search through a ton of information to find what you are looking for. It is all pinpointed right there. I utilize this resource constantly to support my magickal workings, my spiritual practice, and going through my daily life. It is absolutely amazing. So, yeah, get this book!
Okay, back to the topic at hand – gemstones for sexual healing. My research led me to Orange Calcite, Red Jasper, and Orange Kyanite – a particularly powerful stone for clearing negative energies from the second chakra, accrued during this lifetime, as well as previous lifetimes. So I went searching for these little beauties to add to my sexual healing regimen. Both Orange Calcite and Red Jasper are fairly easy to obtain, but the Orange Kyanite took a bit more searching around town – I finally found it at The Gold Door and oh am I glad I did. This is a seriously powerful stone! [I’ll explain more shortly.]
I continued on with my morning sessions, setting my intentions for healing my sexual organs, releasing any negative energy stored there, clearing the energies, and opening to creativity (which, when the second chakra is flowing properly, is what naturally manifests). The Book of Stones says that the second chakra is the seat of our sexual and creative energies. Indeed! I continued to notice changes in my physical experience of sexual activity (less pain, greater sensation, more freedom in my energy) and also an increased level of desire for sexual activity. I felt less defensive and more engaged. I recognize more and more how much I have embodied a defensive stance in my pelvic region and I now realize that was causing a lot of the pain and urinary tract infections that I was experiencing – I was always ready for a physical issue which had me very guarded.
Around this time I received an email from Don, an energy healer that I had worked with previously for a number of sessions that was a great support for me on my healing journey, removing and helping me to release a ton of negative energy that I had been carrying around with me since birth (I was put up for adoption at birth and that led to all sorts of issues for me, but we can explore that perhaps during a different post) and that I had accumulated throughout my lifetime. Again, we can get into that more later, as I would love to share more with you all at some point. Anyway, here was Don, just reaching out to say hi and see how I was doing. Such interesting timing. I know that nothing happens by accident and everything, absolutely everything, is divinely timed and I know to listen to the messages when they arrive, so I knew that Don’s reaching out was not a coincidence and that I needed to book a session with him – and I had been wanting my husband to meet with him as well, as I knew he would benefit greatly from some energy healing. So I set us each up with a healing session for the following week. Don works remotely from Australia (how awesome is that?!) and I have actually never met him in person. Amazing how energy and intention works! We can save quantum physics for another post though too. Ha!
So, how this works is Don and I connect via Zoom for a bit and chat for a while, then he goes in and does what he does, seeing what negative energy needs to be removed and he removes it. I don’t actually know exactly how he does this, but it doesn’t really matter that I don’t know – all that matters is that I know it works! These sessions happen in the evening, so after we finish talking online, we say our goodbyes and then I head to bed to lay down and relax, reading a bit before sleeping, while he does the session remotely. During this particular session, I felt a bit of cramping in my pelvic area and knew that something was shifting. I always get so excited to check my inbox the next day, because Don always emails after the session to let me know what he found and what he removed. Sure enough, the next day, I get the email and he explains to me that he removed a great deal of sexual trauma from my pelvic region – a great deal of sexual abuse from previous lifetimes. What…?! Seriously? Wow. I had no idea that I was carrying that around. And I thought immediately of all the stone work I had been doing and especially about the Orange Kyanite that very specifically works with sexual healing from both this current lifetime and previous lifetimes. No kidding! These gemstones are some very seriously powerful beings.
So much has come to pass since I started on this sexual healing journey a few months back. You know that saying we’ve heard forever and we hear even more now that it is the year 2020 – yep, that hindsight thing. It really is quite amazing to look back and see how much has transpired since starting to work very intentionally with those first few stones. We tend to want results right away and we look for these big signs that say, “Yes, this is working in a big way!” But really, the effects, the energy shifts, and the healing all move much more slowly and more subtly than what we are expecting and looking for. This issues that need healing didn’t happen overnight, so we can’t expect that the healing is going to happen overnight. The further along on my journey I travel, the more and more I appreciate that slow and steady wins the race. Commitment and consistency are key. Faith and confidence in the process are paramount. I can very easily see now, looking back, how it all came together and how all the pieces of the puzzle fit together to lead up to this powerful ease and freedom I am experiencing now in my body. Working intentionally and consistently with one stone opened me up to the wisdom of that stone which led me to work with another stone, further opening me up to additional wisdom, which led to the next healing step on the journey, which opened up to Don’s email, which opened up to more healing and purging and on it goes. And this is how the gemstones work – they subtly shift our energy body and open us up to the messages we need to hear and the steps we need to take to align more fully with their wisdom and their energetic frequency. It is a powerful, powerful process if we can sit still long enough to let them do their thing. Commune with them, open to them, talk to them, and align with them. They have great wisdom to share – wisdom of the Earth and of the cosmos. And they have great healing properties – if we can open to them and allow them to work their magick on us.
I am so excited to be sharing about this part of my journey and hope you find inspiration in it. The freedom I am experiencing in my pelvic region is quite profound. I am no longer experiencing urinary tract issues; the frequency of my urinating has greatly decreased (it has been a huge issue for my entire life!); I am no longer experiencing pain during intercourse; I have more sensation during intercourse; my body is less defensive; my creativity is heightened; I feel a huge shift in my energy body with a more open flow and less stagnation; I don’t have the same fear and tension I previously experienced during sexual activity (I actually didn’t realize how much that was happening until now that I am not experiencing it); and the pH in my vagina is so much more healthy. Some of this I simply cannot put into words, but I suppose freedom is the best way I can describe it. Freedom and flow. And my desire for sexual activity has increased as well which feels so much more healthy to me, as I felt out of alignment with my level of desire previously. My mental and physical desire didn’t match up – I wanted to feel more desire, but my body was not cooperating.
I know that so many of us struggle with a blockages and stagnation in our pelvic region and in our second chakra. We hold so much of our tension here and we store up emotional pain and trauma in this region. It greatly affects our sexual expression and our creative abilities and powers. We are sexual beings and when we are not experiencing our sexuality in a healthy way, it profoundly affects many areas of our lives and our relationships with others – not just sexual relationships mind you, but it affects how we experience other people and causes us to be defensive and guarded when our energy is not flowing freely. A healthy second chakra supports healthy boundaries, a healthy relationship to pleasure, and enhanced access to our creative powers. And very importantly – a healthy reproductive system, healthy sexual organs, and a healthy urinary tract system.
I want to take a moment here to say that when I talk about “experiencing our sexuality in a healthy way,” this does not presume any specific ideal sexual expression. We can experience healthy sexuality without having any sexual relations with anybody. When I talk about sexuality, I am not simply referring to the act of engaging in sex. I mean that we are free to express in any way that feels right for us without feeling restricted in any way or untrue to ourselves in any way – and this can fall anywhere on the scale from abstinence to engagement with a number of partners. There are no rules here! Only that we are not acting from a place of societally sanctioned norms, from old patterning and unhealthy belief systems, or from any fear or shame-based state of being. It might be difficult for us to even know what that looks like for ourselves, as these patterns, behaviors, and thought-processes are so ingrained in our experience and we hold them unconsciously in our bodies. How do we know what healthy sexuality is for ourselves when we’ve never experienced it before and we lack good role models? This is a big part of what I am learning from my healing journey with the stones.
Here is a list of the gemstones I’ve been working with and that have brought about this huge transformation and healing for me:
- Orange Kyanite
- Red Jasper
- Orange Calcite
- Citrine (try to get natural citrine, not the heat-treated citrine – you will probably need to find this online)
- Hematite (which, as mentioned previously, I place on either side of my pelvis in the crease that forms at the hip area)
You’ll notice that the majority of these gemstones are similar in color. An awesome thing about gemstones is that they tend to align with the color of the chakra that they are most supportive of. The color associated with the second chakra (Svadhisthana chakra) is orange, like most of the stones listed here. Pretty cool huh?! The other very cool thing about working with gemstones is that they tend to speak to you in a very personal way, so feel free to branch out and do your own exploring. See which ones speak to you and trust your intuition – that is how they communicate with us!
As always, feel free to reach out with any questions. And I will reach out to Don to see if I can include his information here in case you are interested in his healing sessions. He has played a pivotal part in my healing journey over the past year. He is wonderfully compassionate, extremely insightful, and unbelievably caring. And he comes with many excellent references. I really can’t sing his praises enough!
[Don has given his permission to post his email address here, so do please reach out if this speaks to you at all. I can pretty much guarantee that you will be so happy that you did! email@example.com]
Best to you on your journey! I hope the stones speak to you. And feel free to share any of your own healing experiences with these amazing beings. I would love to hear!
Embrace SELF! Shine BRIGHTLY! And LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!
Xo ~ Saidi
I’ve been reading Spellcrafting: Strengthen the Power of Your Craft by Creating and Casting Your Own Unique Spells, written by Arin Murphy-Hiscock, over the past many weeks and have been getting quite a bit out of it. As a spiritual practitioner, my main focus over the past many years has been working with my energy body via teachings and practices in kriya yoga. A natural progression of this energy work within myself has led me to start working more intentionally with energy outside myself. Over the past fifteen months or so, I’ve started getting much more intentional about working with setting intentions, using essential oils and incorporating stones, gems, and crystals into my daily practice. I’ve had profound experiences in doing so (especially around sexual healing), which has led me to deeper exploration of these powerful energies. My experiences and my explorations, coupled with the timing of meeting my beloved husband who has practiced magick for many years, has organically led me to Pagan and Wiccan traditions and learning more about witchcraft. And I gotta admit, I am kind of in love with all of it! I now have some very concrete tools to focus and harness all the energy I’ve been learning about and working with for the past many years. It feels like a very natural and organic process. I especially adore that it is all so nature-focused – working with plant energies, stone and gem spirits, planetary energy, and the elements our world is made up of. And I find it very compatible with the Hindu-Kashmir Saivism-Tantra blend that I’ve been trained in. It is also very much in alignment with the Goddess energy I am drawn to and especially powerful for working with Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine energies. Oh – how could I forget? Sensuality and sexuality is completely and totally supported, embraced, celebrated, and practiced with! Excellent! No shaming here.
I also really appreciate how supportive these traditions are of people working and exploring on their own – or working in groups. From what I have come to understand, thanks to a thoughtful and thorough titled, Drawing Down the Moon: Witches, Druids, Goddess-Worshippers, and Other Pagans in America, by Margot Adler, it feels like a great deal of freedom and creativity is supported and welcomed in this tradition. There are no major rules to follow and no structured hierarchy making any rules. Loving it! This speaks volumes to me and is a big part of the reason I feel so at home in all of this.
I want to take a moment to offer a big shout out to Margot Adler and her awesome book. It felt like a perfect introduction into the history, philosophy, and traditions of witchcraft, Paganism, and Wicca. I feel like I have a fairly solid foundation from which to move forth in my explorations. Highly recommended if you feel these traditions speaking to you. The back of Adler’s book refers to “groups that are non-authoritarian in spirit and share the belief that there is no one single path to divinity.” Yes!
One of the main lessons I have learned over the course of my spiritual path is that we all come to Spirit, Goddess, Source, The Universe in whatever way works best for us. Whatever speaks to us is what speaks to us. We cannot be told by others how to worship or pray or connect with The Universe. We can be pointed in certain directions of course – and get instruction from others on what has worked for them of course – but, ultimately, our path is our own and what works for others may not work for us and vice versa. Too many people have been turned off to a deeper connection with their own heart and soul by being told how they are supposed to be doing it – and how they are not supposed to be doing it. Being told what Source is or isn’t. Who, what, where, why, and how they should or shouldn’t be worshipping, praying, communing, connecting, seeking, journeying. Argh. It just doesn’t work. But, I am not here to get off on a rant about organized religious and spiritual groups – let’s save that for later, shall we?
Now back to the point at hand and the reason I sat down to write this post…cauldrons. As mentioned previously, I’ve been reading and enjoying the Spellcrafting book and finding it rather helpful. One passage I found especially inspiring recently had to do with “kitchen spellcraft.” The author spoke about creating magick in the kitchen with our food and our kitchenware. I’ve been working with being very present and mindful when both eating and with preparing meals with my husband. We work with intention and send love into our food as we are working with it in order to aid in digestion and to give thanks to all that has come together to bring us this food – the plants, the planet, the sun, the elements, the people. It has been a really powerful and beneficial practice for us and is connecting us so much more with these essential life forces and really putting us in deeper connection with gratitude. This particular passage I read kicked it up to an entirely new level for me and feels so in alignment with all of the magick that I am learning about. Murphy-Hiscock spoke of the food ingredients being the magical elements and the kitchenware being our magical tools – likening the pot to a cauldron, the wooden spoon to a wand, and the other cookware to an “agent of magic as well.” That just makes so much sense to me and adds a whole new dimension to the powerful practice we are already working with.
Feeling super excited and inspired, I read the passage aloud to my husband who was lying in bed next to me reading his own book. It totally resonated with him as well and we got inspired to start incorporating this new awareness into our mealtime preparations – taking our magick into the kitchen even more intentionally. I read a few more pages of the book, kissed my husband goodnight, then turned off the light and went to sleep feeling inspired by what I had read and excited to incorporate this new bit of understanding.
Apparently that little passage was even more inspiring than I could have realized. It went to work on me all night long and opened up some important revelations and awarenesses. My spirit team takes advantage of my being asleep to give me what I like to call “downloads” or lessons or visions. These occurrences tend to last most of the night and manifest as wisdom and understanding that is accompanied by color and light of some sort that has an emotional feel to it – or rather the color is the emotion and the wisdom. I don’t exactly know how to put words to it, but the color is a knowing – or the knowing has a color. The color has a feeling. There can be other images too, but mostly it is just an experience of the color and the wisdom. Yes, I think that describes it better – an experience of the color. Hmmm. I’m sure you know how challenging it can be to describe the happenings of our inner world that we journey to at night. I think that is probably the best I am going to do with this one!
Well, so the wisdom that was being shared and that resonated so deeply was that our entire life is a cauldron – with this viewpoint and understanding, we can approach our whole life as magick and alchemy. We are indeed the sorceresses, the magicians, the witches. And all of the elements that get put into our cauldron, our lives, are what creates our reality. We have the power to choose – at least after a certain age we do. When we are very young, the decisions are mostly made for us, but as we grow older and wiser, we get to start making the decisions about what we put into our cauldron. We can choose whether to add more positive or more negative elements – we can put healthy food in our cauldron or we can put a bunch of processed food into it; we can surround ourselves with healthy relationships or we can add more toxic relationships; add exercise or add stagnation; include meditation time or add an abundance of screen time; get out into nature or stay indoors; watch inspirational programs or watch the news. All of these elements blend together in a type of alchemy to create the life and the reality that we are living – for better or for worse. It just felt like such a beautiful way to relate to life and it felt quite empowering to see that I am the one in control, in large part, of what goes into my cauldron.
It feels important to recognize that, though we get to choose, some of these choices definitely take more work and effort on our part if we want to add them to our cauldron. For instance, in this society, depending on which part of the country we live in (and so many other privileges can be taken into account as well!), adding healthy elements into our cauldron is not as easy as adding unhealthy elements. Organic produce is not an option everywhere; not all of us have access to or the resources for a gym membership; some of us live in more toxic environments. There are always many factors at play, but the idea and purpose of this analogy was to help us recognize where we do have power and where we can make decisions that are the most healthy for us – and, yes, we might need to put more effort into making those healthy choices as opposed to taking the path of least resistance. But the reality we will create for ourselves, the alchemy that will happen when we start being more conscious and mindful of our choices, will indeed be magical!
I woke up from the night so inspired and excited to share this with you. May you find inspiration in it as well!
Offering much love and light to you all!
Xo ~ Saidi
I am a sex worker.
I am also…
A devoted wife
A spiritual practitioner
A gym enthusiast
A recovering alcoholic
And an ex-heroin addict
A holder of a Bachelor of Social Work degree
And a Gerontology Associate degree
Currently working on my Masters
A poet (even published a time or two!)
Who talks with her spirit team all of the time
A best friend
A hospice volunteer
Who tries to eat mostly organic
A world traveler
Well – five countries thus far, including the one I live in
A pet lover
With a moon in Cancer
Recovered from Hepatitis C
A lover of books
A grief support group facilitator
With a number of misdemeanors under my belt
And too many trips to jail
A mostly recovered bulimic
A cat lover
A movie watcher
An avid follower of astrology
A hand holder
An Amazon Prime member
A star gazer
A wearer of many boots
An owner of three coloring books
An aspiring landscape designer
A control freak
Just trying to let it all go
A goth at heart
Who still adores super loud music
And the owner of the beginnings of a very fine hat collection
I am a Goddess
I am love.
I am all of these things.
I am none of these things.
And I am much, much more.
And I have spent my entire lifetime trying to hide one or more of these aspects of myself from you, from me, from my family, from friends, from society, from academic institutions, from the powers that be, from the people in control, from the people that make the rules, from the people who hold the love, from the people who hold the key, from anybody I feared judgment from – anybody that might keep me from going where I wanted to go – accomplishing what I wanted to accomplish – living the way I wanted to live – expressing the way I wanted to express – learning what I wanted to learn – loving what I wanted to love – loving how I wanted to love – being who I am meant to be .
My life has been quite an adventure. Full of joys and full of sorrows. As is usually the case with us human beings. It has been a powerful journey of self discovery. A journey that continues to morph and change, day in and day out. I don’t yet have it all figured out and I have come to relish the beauty of that fact. And though I do not have all the answers and I still find myself absolutely perplexed at times by all of life’s little complexities and nuances, I have learned a thing or two along the way – and I feel called to share that wisdom with you, with anyone who wants to listen, with anybody who is looking to connect, with anyone who might need a little support on their journey.
I started off this blog by just putting it all out there – I have worked long and hard to embrace my entire self and to not live a shame-based existence. Though I am mostly out of the closet with being a sex-worker, it is something I am still working on owning in some circles as there has been such stigma and shame surrounding sex work. It feels especially empowering to put it out there front and center – to own it, to rock it, to let you all know how much I love it! And to highlight the fact that though I do love it and it is an important part of my life, there are many many many other aspects of me that are way more influential and powerful in my life. I, probably much like you, am a very complex, rich, and many-faceted creature who expresses in a ton of different ways – and sex work is just one of those many ways.
My life has taken some very interesting twists and turns and has been anything but “normal” – and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I have learned and grown so much and am so appreciative for the places I have been. I have gained so much compassion and empathy for myself and for others. The grief I have experienced helps me appreciate the grief that we all carry, for one reason or another. Having spent so much of my life feeling like an outcast and a misfit and like I just simply did not belong has helped me to recognize how we each have struggled with trying to find our place and to feel loved for exactly who we are and how we have shown up in this lifetime. So much of our energy is spent trying to conform and fit in and mold ourselves to what society has deemed appropriate – and it has sucked the life out of us and wasted much of our precious time and energy. I have never fit in and now I am so grateful for that. And grateful to be finally fully embracing myself and saying “fuck it!” I love myself and how I have shown up. And I am ready to start seriously rocking it!
There is so much I feel called to share and I am contemplating what exactly my intention is for this blog, as I believe setting intention is the very foundation of our lives. This is one of the big lessons I have been learning over the course of my life – when I don’t set intention and focus my energy, my life feels scattered and out of alignment. This quote from Deepak Chopra embodies my view beautifully:
“Intentions compressed into words enfold magical power.”
When I set intention, which can be as simple as saying internally or out loud “I want to align more fully with love,” my life starts to align with that intention. It sounds very simple when I put it like that, but it has actually taken years of practice to feel like I finally have a real grasp on what it means to live a life of intention and in alignment with my true purpose. My true purpose is indeed to align more fully with love – or to remember that, at my core, all that I truly am is love. There are many other intentions I set day to day and as I go about my life, but that one has remained central for many years and has been my theme. I’m grateful to be able to share that I finally have a very real and actual lived experience of this – years into my spiritual practice and years into doing pretty much everything possible to keep bringing myself back to this intention: mantra, meditation, journaling, writing daily affirmations, annual pilgrimages to India, reading tons of books (or at least starting them anyway!), prayer, talking to my spirit team, and on and on and on. Anything to keep returning to my intention. Another excellent quote that I hold dear:
“Isn’t it great to know that you cannot control your world from the outside? To try and control things on the outside feels impossible because it would take so much work, and in fact it is impossible according the law of attraction. To change your world, all you have to do is manage your thoughts and feelings on the inside of you, and then your whole world changes.” ~ Rhonda Byrne
And now that I feel I am truly in a place of embodying that, I feel called to share more about my process and about my journey – with the intention that perhaps some of it will resonate with you and speak to you and inspire you in some big or small way. Furthermore, I set an intention to continue to be conscious of the desire for perfectionism and continue to consciously let that go! Just write from my heart, not my mind so much. I need to let go of outcome and just enjoy the expression of self via the written word – which I absolutely adore.
I get excited about connecting and sharing. So I am just going to try to stay in that excitement and joy. I am ever trying to move out of my mind and down into my heart. Our society makes that complicated as it is so mentally focused and we are praised for being in our heads, while scorned for being too emotional, too heart-based. Our hearts are very systematically shut down from a very early age and then it is our life’s work to find our way back to them. That is what it has been for me anyway. The shutting down of my heart and my emotions led me down some dark pathways, which only served to shut me down even further. It has been a long journey finding my way out of the darkness and has also been a powerful journey of learning to integrate that part of myself that was drawn to that darkness. For we can’t have the light without the dark. I have discovered how important it is to remember this point. We can swing too far in either direction. We need to balance and harmonize the two aspects of ourselves. This, too, has been a lifelong journey – learning to embrace all the aspects of myself and not judging, criticizing, or shaming myself (or others). Definitely a process. And one I am excited to share about here.
Grateful that you have found your way to this little post here. Breathing in, breathing out, opening to self, opening to expression. I look forward to continued sharing here. I look forward to a continued embracing of self – of shining my light brightly – of loving whole-heartedly. And that is the main intention of this blog! Embrace self; shine light; love, love, love!
Thank you again for being here! Sending much love and light your way.